My decision to get sober started because I wanted to support a family member who was struggling with their drinking. They chose to check themselves into rehab for help and I wanted to be supportive and understanding of their journey. However, the past year of sobriety has really been more about myself and I have learned so much more about myself than I ever thought I would.
I really do believe that a huge part of our self love journey has to do with how we nourish our minds, bodies and souls. When we come from a place of healing ourselves, we create a more healthier space for our self love journey to begin. So sobriety, for me, as been a huge part of my self love journey.
I want to share with you some tips that can help you or a loved get and stay sober. I do want to mention that I am not a therapist or drug and alcohol counselor, I am merely sharing my own experience. If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, please see the resources at the end of this post for more information.
Let That Shit go!
In order to begin your sober journey you really have to make some lifestyle changes. Get rid of the routines, habits, people and places that can trigger you to want to drink. Stay out of risky situations or familiar places that will tempt you to drink
Try to create a more structured and organized schedule. Too much free time leads to boredom and a chaotic schedule leads to stress and those both lead to drinking.
Let go of toxic people who trigger your drinking, but also let go of people in your life who are not understanding or supportive of your decision to become sober. This can be drinking buddies and even friends and family who have their own drug and alcohol issues.
Let’s Get Physical!
I wouldn’t be a good yoga and Pilates teacher if I didn’t mention movement. Movement matters and can be very healing for any journey we are on. From reducing stress, learning to feel more comfortable in our bodies and more, exercise is a great tool on your journey. Find new ways to relive stress and boredom like mediation, walking, running, yoga, Pilates or going to the gym.
Find Your Tribe
It can be very helpful to find people who are going through what you are or have already been there, done that and got the A.A. chip to prove it. As you let go of toxic relationships, you need to find people who are supportive and understanding of your journey. This will allow you to have a safe space to talk about what is coming up for you and get advice along the way. Find groups like A.A. to join.
REad About REcovery
I believe that part of nourishing ourselves includes the mind and reading on various topics that support our journey. Reading about recovery can you help you to educate yourself on what is to come. You might find useful tools to help you when you feel triggered or tempted to drink.
BE a goal digger
I’m a huge goal setter and I find that planning for the future is helpful in letting go of drinking. Sit down and plan out your dream life with blue sky thinking. Nothing is impossible! Then build SMART goals around that. This allows you to stay in a positive mindset and focus on building the dream life you want. One that doesn’t include drinking.
I’m a huge fan of journaling for many types of reasons. It really allows us to do a brain dump onto paper, clearing out all the unnecessary thoughts in our heads that hold us back from living the life we want. It can also be useful in getting clarity on situations. Journaling can help you get in touch with your feelings and allow you to dive deeper into the why behind your triggers for drinking.
Abandon Shame and guilt
Shame and guilt are the two most popular emotions that come up for those in recovery. You need to accept what has happen, take a look at it and then let that shit go. Holding on to shame and guilt is just a roadblock to your healing and recovery. You need to let go of the past in order to move forward on the road to recovery.
This is actually one of the steps in the A.A. 12 step program. Just as someone was there to help you on your road to recovery, you need to do the same for others. Giving back to others is a way to pay it forward and helps you realize that you have the capability to help heal others. This can be volunteering or becoming a sponsor.
The Other F word
Forgiveness is by far one of the most powerful tools I’ve used on my self love journey. You need to forgive yourself as well as others. Whenever someone has harmed you, you need to forgive and forget. It doesn’t mean that you are saying what they did was right, it is saying that you love yourself too much to hold onto that hurt. When we let go of that hurt and forgive them, we create more space for healing and self love. It can be hard to forgive but it is vital in your healing and sobriety.
One day at a time
This is another step in the 12 step protocol. We only have this one day, right now. We only have this moment that we are in, right now. Stay present. Being present allows us to see what is coming up for us. What is triggering us. Then we can chose how to deal with that emotion in a healthier way. This is true for drinkers, emotional eaters, etc.
To hear more about my journey and these tips on the road to recovery, please listen to the podcast below. Don’t forget to like, subscribe and comment on the podcasts too. You can listen on SoundCloud here and on iTunes here.